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How to Appropriately and Calmly Renegotiate the Terms of Your Relationship


If you’ve been with your man for more than a few years, it’s inevitable that the things that worked for you in the beginning of your relationship aren’t going to work anymore. When that happens, you need to appropriately and calmly renegotiate the terms of your relationship, so both you and your guy can get your needs met.

For example, maybe your guy has had poker night with his buddies every Sunday since you met him and it’s always been perfectly fine with you. In fact, you looked forward to the quiet in the house all week! But now that you’re in the middle of a difficult pregnancy, you don’t want to be left alone in the house at night anymore. You need more support but you don’t know how to bring it up because Sunday poker night has always been his thing. What I hear from my clients is that they struggle with feelings of guilt and usually end up stomping around all day Sunday resentful that he’s going for example, to poker night.  Wouldn’t asking him to stop be wrong? And how can you talk to him about it without appearing like a nagging, unsupportive wife or girlfriend?

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I want to hear from you! Is there something about your relationship you’d like to renegotiate? Share your experience in the comment box below!

All my best,
Heather Baker

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About the Author

Heather BakerHeather Baker is a Relationship Coach, certified from the prestigious, world-class Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC). She specializes in saving relationships from a break up or divorce. In addition to being a relationship coach, Heather’s a devout student and teacher of yogic and Buddhist philosophy. Heather lives in San Francisco, California with her fiancée and their two rescue pups, Miso and Minka.View all posts by Heather Baker →

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